# helicopter parenting (never-withdrawn)

*Ordinarily means:* a parent's over-close watching and managing of a child's life

Maintenance of another's window that never stops, holding its walls so close that it never touches one itself and so never learns its own reach.

- Computed level: L16 (depth in the emergence graph, not abstraction)
- Status: published  ·  Domain: agency

## Emergence
**Emerges from:** [maintenance](https://emergencemachine.com/tools/lexicon/what-is-the-meaning-of-maintenance.upkeep), [window](https://emergencemachine.com/tools/lexicon/what-is-the-meaning-of-window.range), [wall](https://emergencemachine.com/tools/lexicon/what-is-the-meaning-of-wall.range-end), [hold](https://emergencemachine.com/tools/lexicon/what-is-the-meaning-of-hold.physical), [close](https://emergencemachine.com/tools/lexicon/what-is-the-meaning-of-close.spatial), [never](https://emergencemachine.com/tools/lexicon/what-is-the-meaning-of-never.temporal), [stop](https://emergencemachine.com/tools/lexicon/what-is-the-meaning-of-stop.action), [learn](https://emergencemachine.com/tools/lexicon/what-is-the-meaning-of-learn.cognitive), [reach](https://emergencemachine.com/tools/lexicon/what-is-the-meaning-of-reach.action), [power](https://emergencemachine.com/tools/lexicon/what-is-the-meaning-of-power.over), [self-model](https://emergencemachine.com/tools/lexicon/what-is-the-meaning-of-self-model.reflexive), [touch](https://emergencemachine.com/tools/lexicon/what-is-the-meaning-of-touch.together)

**Through:** The holder's power keeps the other well inside its window, so the other never touches an edge; with no wall met, its self-model has nothing to read its reach from. The maintenance continues exactly where the window is wide enough not to need it.

**Novel properties:**
- protection that removes the readings a self-model is built from
- maintenance that makes itself look necessary
- reach present and never read

## Examples
- The image of a parent hovering 'like a helicopter' appears in Haim Ginott's 1969 book Between Parent and Teenager, quoting a teenager. *(psychology)*

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*Structured data: https://emergencemachine.com/tools/lexicon/what-is-the-meaning-of-helicopter-parenting.never-withdrawn.json*  
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